Living in Sin?????
Dear Love Mavens,
We met in School. Moved to Tucson and my significant other and I were fortunate enough to find jobs and moved into a tiny apartment together. We have been living together for four years totally committed/ I love him. We love our jobs, living in Tucson and our time together is perfect.
But times passes quickly and now after four wonderful years I have never heard him mention marriage or anything close to it.
First I thought we were fresh out of school, no jobs, money was an issue and too new a relationship for anything serious.
Now after four years all our previous issues are resolved and it's time for him to commit, but he appears to be very comfortable with our living conditions.
I'm not. I've mentioned it a few times but he never has a definitive answer.
What's a girl to do?
Helen
Surely four heavenly years should tell him something about you. My feelings are that he has found a Mommy to take care of him and your obviously IT.
After two years words should have been exchanged about your goals and future.
Honey, men are not fast movers, until they are about to lose what they love, Once you let the cow out of the barn.....well you know how that goes.
He is so sure of your feelings that he's content, like living home with Mommy. Not!
Girl, get your move on. Tell him what you want and when. You're not getting any younger. Dont waste your precious time in a hold position.
TALK, set a date, preferably within six months,
That should get his attention, if not, grab your purse, cut your losses, run to the next exit and go!
Heidi
Whoaaaaaaaaaaa Nelly! Don't you think that's rather rash? Just cut your loss and run? What is this, a race to the gate?
Here's the deal. Maybe, just maybe, he's saving for a ring or a house. Maybe he wants the time and place to be just right, to make a romantic gesture that the two of you will never forget.
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We met in School. Moved to Tucson and my significant other and I were fortunate enough to find jobs and moved into a tiny apartment together. We have been living together for four years totally committed/ I love him. We love our jobs, living in Tucson and our time together is perfect.
But times passes quickly and now after four wonderful years I have never heard him mention marriage or anything close to it.
First I thought we were fresh out of school, no jobs, money was an issue and too new a relationship for anything serious.
Now after four years all our previous issues are resolved and it's time for him to commit, but he appears to be very comfortable with our living conditions.
I'm not. I've mentioned it a few times but he never has a definitive answer.
What's a girl to do?
Helen
Surely four heavenly years should tell him something about you. My feelings are that he has found a Mommy to take care of him and your obviously IT.
After two years words should have been exchanged about your goals and future.
Honey, men are not fast movers, until they are about to lose what they love, Once you let the cow out of the barn.....well you know how that goes.
He is so sure of your feelings that he's content, like living home with Mommy. Not!
Girl, get your move on. Tell him what you want and when. You're not getting any younger. Dont waste your precious time in a hold position.
TALK, set a date, preferably within six months,
That should get his attention, if not, grab your purse, cut your losses, run to the next exit and go!
Heidi
Whoaaaaaaaaaaa Nelly! Don't you think that's rather rash? Just cut your loss and run? What is this, a race to the gate?
Here's the deal. Maybe, just maybe, he's saving for a ring or a house. Maybe he wants the time and place to be just right, to make a romantic gesture that the two of you will never forget.
You've both invested 4 years.
WHAT'S THE MATTER WITH YOU???
Unless you're deaf, dumb & mute...TRY TALKING TO HIM!!!
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