Friends With Benefits!

Dear Love Mavens,

Joe and I have been best friends for years, we've laughed and cried together for years, nurtured one another, fought and made up a million times. But as best friends forever, we've weathered every storm and remained BFF.

Now, I have an issue that I cant seem to resolve myself.  I really need your eyes to view it as an outsider to tell me what you think.

Joe has been in a different city for 2 years, job related, but we've stayed in touch  He is now moving back to the city I live in and wants us to move in together.

I'm hesitant to do that.  We have been best friends, but never before friends with benefits.

Can you help me with my problem.

Signed:

I'm in a dilemma.

HELEN:

Bad, bad idea, moving into your space

Two years is a long time. Chances are he was not alone there.

Why give up privacy, until YOU decide if you want to be a friend with benefits.  

Close the barn door, until you are ready for a roll in the hay.

HEIDI:

First of all, how do you know he wants to be friends with benefits?  Rather presumptuous if you ask me.  Maybe he just wants a roommate.  Sounds like the two of you need to figure out which way you'd like your relationship to go.

From the sound of it, you already have the foundation for a great romance.  You're friends. Best friends.  The question really is can men and women really be just friends?  If you move to the next step, you could lose your best friend or gain a husband.  Personally, I would remain friends;  forget the benefits.  Men and women can't be friends unless the other is extremely ugly. 

Helen

That's redundant.  You sound like your waffling.  Solve the damn dilemma.  Men and women are friends, BFF.  You're putting ideas and words in her mouth.  Men have a short fuse.  Too many details.  It's either a yes, or a no. And further more: with the lights out who knows what the h-ll he looks like naked.